How can I improve my chances of hearing back from someone I write?
A good rule of thumb is to write the kind of letter you'd like to receive yourself. Would you really be motivated to respond to a message that said only, "Hi, want to write to me?"
Here's one member's suggestion: "The whole purpose of the profile is to inspire a response that hopefully offers more than the profile - otherwise I would have noticed the profile and written a letter myself. When making the first contact, talk about what piqued your interest in the target profile, tell some more about yourself (in addition to pasting in your profile), show a little personality."
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Frequently Asked Questions
May I use my email forwarding account for postal forwarding?
We prefer that you do not do so. Email forwarding is handled in a different way and at a different workstation than postal forwarding. The email forwarding credit system was set up because it's the easiest way to pay for a cyberspace correspondence. But when you're sending a piece of snail mail anyway, the payment can be tucked in with the letter to be forwarded.
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Joining Concerned Singles
Is the contact information I give you kept confidential?
Must I be a member in order to browse the online listings?
What is the cost of membership?
Can I join without using a credit card?
Do you publish photos of members?
Browsing the Profiles
If I opt to receive the hardcopy listings, may I still browse the member listings online?
How do I search the profiles?
What do those abbreviations in the profiles mean?
Self-Description
Any suggestions on preparing my self-description?
How do I count the words in my self-description?
Can I get help with my self-description?
Will you edit my self-description?
How do I revise my self-description?
Member Correspondence
May I use my email forwarding account for postal forwarding?
Why is the forwarding fee separate from the membership fee?
What should I say in my overture to another member?
How should I reply to someone who has responded to my profile?
How does email forwarding work?
How do I open or replenish my email forwarding account?
Can I send a message to a member directly from my email program rather than from the CS website?
How does postal forwarding work?
What if US postage is not available to me?
Should I write to someone who doesn't live nearby?
What if I write to someone who has canceled membership?
General Information
Why do some forms ask me to enter the text from an image?
How can I help Concerned Singles serve me best?
How can I get in touch with you?
Is there a fee for changing my contact option?
Is there a fee for changing my geolocation?
Is there a fee for revising my profile?
Do I get a new membership code number when I renew or rejoin?
I've forgotten my membership code number! What do I do now?
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